What kind of abuse is this and how do I stop it?

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2021.10.24 23:17 CherimolaGrape What kind of abuse is this and how do I stop it?

Boy this is a long story.
So I (30F) recently cut contact with my abusive mother. I have a sister (28) who still lives with her. My mother is a classic narcissist as far back as I can remember. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid and I'm also autistic. My mom refused to believe the doctors about my diagnosis despite me having all the classic symptoms. She refused any treatment or therapy, except to occasionally take me to doctors to complain about how crazy I was. She felt like my behavior was just to spite her (as if a 5 year old even understands the concept of spite). I was always the black sheep because of this.
My sister on the other hand was neurotypical and 'easy' as a kid. This led to my mom showering her with affection and privileges I guess to entice me to behave? I don't know. Luckily my sister and I get along great and recognize that what my mom was doing was unhealthy. She even shared what she could with me so that I felt included and loved. She tells me she was always confused as a kid, not understanding why she got trips to McDonald's and new shoes and toys while I was left at home having a meltdown.
Despite all my challenges I was able to put myself through school and still get my degree and a profession where I could support myself. I left home and moved in with a terribly abusive ex that was basically my mother in male form (thanks mom!). Despite living with him it was still healthier than living with my mother.
My mom always had this thing about us not leaving her. Growing up she didn't really allow us to have friends or maintain friendships. She didn't allow play dates or sleepovers. Going to friend's birthday parties were always a horrible guilt trip that we hardly ended up attending in the end anyway. She almost died of shock when I announced I wanted to move out. She always told us the outside world is scary and hard and that we needed her to survive in it. She actively discouraged our independence and freedom.
When I was ready to enroll in university she was not eager to pay for me, despite having an education fund for each of us in the bank since we were babies. She looked for every opportunity to not fund my chance at an independent life. Moving away for university was out of the question. I decided to stay at home and pay for it all myself with 2 jobs. I somehow managed to do it with unmedicated ADHD and she watched me struggle working 2 jobs while she had all the money I needed to focus on my studies.
She always ultimately blamed it on not having enough money. Growing up we were always told we were short every month. My parents provided the basics but never any extras. Imagine my surprise when I went to apply for a loan for school and I was told that I didn't qualify because of my dad's income. I had never really given it much thought, but my parents lived frugally. It never really occurred to me that they would be more than able to cover my school and be comfortable even if they had no savings for my schooling.
Fast forward to now. I've been living on my own and supporting myself for a few years. My dad moved out a few years ago after deciding he could no longer live with my mom - I don't blame him. My sister however still lives with my mom.
Mom is still using all of her old abuse tactics with my sister and I'm watching her drown when she should be blooming. They paid for my sister's university and she managed to have a career that is enough to support herself. My sister claims she's still there because it makes more financial sense, but at what cost? Her anxiety and depression are so that she can barely function. My mom guilts her every day and invades her privacy regularly. She can't date or see friends without my mom psychologically abusing her after. I know because I lived it when I was there.
"How can you spend so much time out of the house? Are you out there being a whore? What will people think? You should be ashamed of yourself"
"How can you abandon me after all I've sacrificed for you? How would you feel if I had a heart attack because of the stress you put me through?"
On top of this she's abusing my sister financially. My dad is sending my mom more than enough to be comfortable through spousal support. He is fully paying the huge mortgage on their home and then some. She charges my sister market rent which is basically half the mortgage. My sister could reasonably afford a place on her own with what she's paying. My mom tells her that without her rent she would not be able to pay the mortgage and "will end up in a cockroach infested apartment" if she moves out.
When my dad left he refused to leave the house in my mom's name (smart move), leaving it to my sister and I instead. My mom tried to get me to pay into the mortgage despite me not living there "as an investment towards my future home". I told her that the house is in my name regardless if I pay or not. So my dad basically pays the mortgage and all the bills and my sister pays to be abused? I get that adults have to pay for the space they live in, but I think my sister can be paying rent somewhere else and be able to live her life freely.
My mom was a stay at home mom all our lives, way longer than she needed to be. Her excuse now is that because she "had to stay home with us" she has no pension or savings as a result. She works a casual job with a few hours a week, constantly complaining to anyone who will listen about how hard she has to work now that her family "abandoned" her.
Now that I want to get my master's degree I asked my mom what happened to my education fund (which can only strictly be spent on education in my country). My mom gave me this story about how she had to use it when we moved a few years ago. It doesn't add up. Did she commit fraud and tell the bank where I was going to school to use the money for something else?
I'm just so sad for my sister. I told her we should evict my mom and put the house up for rent so my sister can live somewhere by herself. She's obviously too terrified to do this. My mom won't really let her have a relationship with me or my dad. I really don't know what to do to help her.
Also is my mom even allowed to do what she's doing? She's living for free off my dad and sister because she "sacrificed everything to raise us". Should we hire a lawyer?
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My Preferences: There are very few things that I prefer in a partner. Top three would very likely be --
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